My daughter, only child, me a senior guy, wants me to move to Las Vegas….?
…I have some problems with that. Help me decide.
The pro, of course, is to live near my daughter, who is a great girl with a great job, heart and attitude. The city is OK with me. I am a widower and not getting younger and have no nearby family or friends. What holds me back? My current home is nice (but not much equity) would have to be sold in a down market. I can’t afford more that $2500 per month tops rent or mortgage to start over. I do not like the Vegas weather of hot summers/cold winters. Add to that, I would have a sad, close-up view of her living badly with voluntarily nonworking husband. My daughter pays everything and is always in debt and chased by debt collectors. She has borrowed from me, but I am putting an end to that now. I do not have much hope this situation will change in the future. She complains all the time, but is unlikely to dump the guy. I cannot see me making this move, but at same time I worry about not making it, leaving her and me both far apart and alone. How would you sort out this mess?
Speaking as a "Daddy’s Girl," I say go for it.
Not to get her out of binds or situations or to contribute, but just to be close to her.
With you nearby, her life will turn around for the better.
Rent your house out and enjoy being with your daughter! She will enjoy having you in Vegas 10x more!
As for the weather, get a coat and flip flops!
February 13th, 2010 at 7:25 am
For that amount for mortgage or rent you could get a mansion here right now. As long as you don’t have to find a job this is the best place to be. I personally would rather be close to her than far away. Not seeing what she is going through doesn’t change the fact of how she lives just makes it easier on you. At least being close you could be support for her in case she has in the back of her mind to leave that looser. Vegas is a great place for seniors. I would not be able to sleep at night with her that far away.
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February 13th, 2010 at 8:04 am
Go ahead and give ivgeno the best answer. He nailed it. Family is all we really have.
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February 13th, 2010 at 8:53 am
The pro’s you state do not outweigh the cons in your mind, nor in mine. This would be a case of jumping from the frying pan into the fire.
I will not tell you what to do, but you know the correct answer.
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February 13th, 2010 at 9:06 am
There is a LAS VEGAS, New Mexico, and one in Nevada. I live in the Nevada one.
I am 58 years old, and have been here since 1992, when I moved here from the Hawaiian Island of Maui.
It is the best move I’ve ever made. I wouldn’t wish to live elsewhere.
PM me, if you wish to have additional details, that I would not wish to publicly make.
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February 13th, 2010 at 9:36 am
You do not say if you have family[aunts uncles cousins] and friends[close dependable] where you are now. You do not say your feelings[comforts,employment knowledge, length of time there] about where you are. For you, you need to figure out what you gain[pluses] and what you lose[minuses]. Hopefully the total will help clarify your decision.
From what you say in the question my initial response is to stay where you are. Your daughter can always return without her friend. That would be best, yet it appears she is/has laid a guilt trip upon you for not understanding her. I suspect you understand very well ;so stay there.
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February 13th, 2010 at 9:58 am
Speaking as a "Daddy’s Girl," I say go for it.
Not to get her out of binds or situations or to contribute, but just to be close to her.
With you nearby, her life will turn around for the better.
Rent your house out and enjoy being with your daughter! She will enjoy having you in Vegas 10x more!
As for the weather, get a coat and flip flops!
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